FAILURES ARE OPPORTUNITIES.

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Failures are never the end result that certify our incapability but they are opportunities to learn and to improve ourselves. Try as many times as we can and don’t agonize about whether the results will be successful or failure. If there is success then it is good, but if we fail then it is also good because it means that we now have the opportunity to realize what we lack, rectify ourselves and try once again.

That motivation inside us will inspire us to do better and better. It is hard to believe but it is true that there are some people who measure caliber just on the basis of the number of prizes or material possessions that one has achieved instead of acknowledging talent or knowledge. Those who discourage others only make them lose all confidence, building up obstacle in the mind of the individual.

Those who  discourage are the real enemies but those who appreciate others and have good things to say to them end up motivating them and before you know it. They are inspired enough to try harder in order to get closer to success. Everyone has potential and it is always good to appreciate the capabilities of others and boost their self-esteem.

Therefore we should accept failures and view them not as the end of the journey but as the start of a new journey that may present fresh opportunities so take our failures as challenges and opportunities to improve ourselves.

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LIFE IS LIKE A RUBIKS CUBE..

A solved rubiks cube does not give any happiness but scrambled rubiks cube will surly tempt everyone to give a try to solve it. Once we become successful in that we get the real pleasure. So in order to take that pleasure we again scramble the cube. We scramble that just to solve it. A life like a solved rubiks cube is boring. So we need some problem to solve in life. God knows that and we get problems one by one. The moment we solve one another is ready for us. Just like a rubiks cube we go on solving but fate scramble that and give in our hand.

Before some months i didn’t know how to solve a rubiks cube. I asked many who could do that but to my surprise none was ready to tell the formula. Perhaps they do not want me to learn that. World is like that. People enjoy your problems but those coming with a solution for your problem is something we cant expect. So i started to search for a method to unscramble a rubiks cube. One person told me that there are many ways to solve that. The method he finds easy may not work for me so i have to find a method easy for me. May be a wise suggestion. The way another person solves the problems of life may not be my way. After three months of frequent attempt I managed to solve the cube and after many days of practice I can solve it easily now. Everyone makes an attempt to solve a scrambled cube even if they dont know the formula. Scrambling is easy and many do that and just leave it. Many try but admit failure easily. In life solving is your only duty and scrambling happens on its own. But dont forget to take the happiness of solving the scrambled life. Of course there is a formula which is convenient for you.. In every problem… Every situation..

BE IN A RELIGION BUT NOT RELIGIOUS????

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JUST THOUGHT PROVOKING….

The expression of religious and spiritual values of the elders is not strong enough to convince the next generation about its importance in their life. Everyone is in one or the other religion and that was of course the choice of the family in which they are born. But once we take a religion and its doctrines as the fundamentals of our life, it is our sole responsibility to maintain that in our life and also to pass that to the next generation with equal strength.

Unfortunately many of the religious places, worshiping places and shrines have become just a picnic spot or time pass zone. When the elders and parents behave like that how can we expect the next generation to be highly religious. Father ask the child to pray before going to bed but the child never see him doing that. With silly reasons and even in the name of a movie or chatting with friends we skip a family prayer session which is essential to keep the bond of the family strongly. Just half an hour prayer and supper together has unimaginable role in maintaining a disciplined strong relationship of family members. Going to church every Sunday is a boring routine for the new generation. Many go just thinking what others will think if I don’t go. So for the sake of others go to church and sit in a corner and check mobile every five minutes in front of kids and give an excuse to the inquisitive kids that he is checking whether he received any message from God, chat with friends in a low voice, yawn hundred times and finally sleep. Celebrate the festival with friends and family with variety of food, sweets, special non veg dishes and in addition whiskey, brandy and vodka. Then expect God to shower only blessings on everyone.

Going to temple is not compulsory so people go whenever they feel like going. But even here people are in a picnic mood. Go to distant temple enjoy the journey, admire the skill of those made the structures and statues, go everywhere and just spend some time there, have food and come back. Religious festivals are just a celebration of fun, entertainment and enjoyment. How many different shops are there, how many variety of toys, fancy stuff which attract ladies, sweets and games zone for men and total fun. So spend ten minutes in the temple and five hours in other fun filled activities. God is the most rejected aspect in any of the religious festivals. Still we wonder with index finger on nose…how the hell our kids have no religious values????.  The new generation is observing these religious values and they instantly find that all these are meaningless. Thereafter it is not easy to convince anyone about the religious values.

BE A GOOD EXAMPLE THAN A HYPOCRITE PREACHER.

This is the only thing effective to instill some religious values to our children. Even if we don’t give any property to our children the three most important aspects which we have to give them are Proper food, proper education and proper values.

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This post is little bit criticism but my reader can’t reject the fact because I write experience and observation not assumption. I like frank expression.

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A change in life..painful..but everything for good.

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Let’s never give in,

To neither complaints nor fear.

With our eyes on our goals,

The right direction we steer.

 

No matter the circumstances,

With great effort we should always try.

We must pick ourselves up,

When we get bruised and we cry.

 

Opportunities are plentiful,

Let’s just open our eyes.

Our dreams we shall nurture,

As we stare to the skies.

 

The trick is to create value,

That’s honest and real.

By following our passions,

In our hearts we shall feel.

 

If we never hold back,

And just give it our all.

No challenge or obstacle,

Shall ever be tall.

 

Every change in life is really a painful process where we feel many times to admit failure. But once we try to realize that admitting failure in short term is the worst part of our life’s decision we get inspiration from many things. If a child has to come to the world and until it becomes self reliant there are lot of painful sacrifices a mother enjoys with happiness. The thought about the nine months pregnancy and painful delivery will not dissuade women from becoming a mother. All the sacrifices she makes never put the question ‘WHY’ in front of her. Being a man I would like to admit frankly that if we have ten percentages of that patience and sacrificing mentality we will never fail in any of our attempts. Life will be successful. Finally success in life is those memories that make you smile.

Whatever I am writing is absolutely about myself and I am not judging the entire male society. The process of change that happened in my life recently was bit painful but right now am very happy that everything happens for good. The crisis that happened in my life put an end to my profession which I have been doing since fourteen years. That moment the thought what next was the maximum tormenting nightmare for me, though I am not in a situation of total helplessness and starvation. A man should never sit idle is what I believe. There were no options and alternatives but when I observed the way things worked in my favour, I was really amazed. Right now I have landed properly in a safe situation with peace and happiness. In the initial stage I slightly lost patience but everything became fine in a matter of three months. And I thank God for the favour and blessing. He knows that if he did not take me out of that profession I will live and die as an unsuccessful person. Being a teacher with less salary is not a proper field of work for men and this is a fact I realized with fourteen years. After working fourteen years still I am what I was before fourteen years especially regarding financial status, earning and savings from that profession. So it is the best decision of God in my life that brought a change in my track.  Teaching is the Holy profession as teachers do what god can’t do directly to human. They are instruments in the hands of God to carry out His plans of moulding fruitful citizen from innocent children. So I am not against this profession, still I like this field because nothing else gives me as much happiness when am with those little innocent minds. But a change became a must in life. Once again I thank God for everything He plans for me.

I REALLY LOVED THIS PAINFUL CHANGE THAT HAPPENED IN MY LIFE…

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HAPPINESS OF AN INDIVIDUAL IS IN MAKING OTHERS HAPPY!!!

 

 

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This is just a thought for the day that almost everyone experiences in the life. Maximum time of our life goes in making others happy. Thinking ,planning, working, struggling, convincing, compromising and even sacrificing we try to make others happy and we take a small share of happiness from that. A man has to see if his child is happy, if his wife is happy, if his boss is happy and if the neighbors are happy with him. There are two points of view regarding this aspect. First one is expecting others to make me happy and the second view is making others happy and be happy in that. But finally this is the field almost everyone fails in this modern world. People struggle to find reasons to be sad throughout the day and in that pursuit they miss many of the happy moments and remain permanently sad. After making maximum effort if we see others still sad that will make us really sad and defeated. Life is very short and we have to live that happily not leave that sadly. Don’t make life so complicated and enjoy every essence of togetherness, relations, friendships and social contacts and make the day really awesome. Go to sleep at night with some beautiful memories of the day which will give you hope and positive vibes for the next day. The problems of the world is not on our head, we have a simple beautiful life which is a gift of God and live that the way he likes. When we live the life the way He doesn’t like we will be definitely unhappy.

“HAPPINESS IS THE MOST PRECIOUS THING EVEN THE RICHEST PEOPLE ARE IN SEARCH OF BUT THE EASIEST THING TO FIND”

WE STAND IN WATER AND LOOK FAR AT THE OASIS TO SLAKE OUR THIRST.

HI FRIENDS LET US BE HAPPY AND OUR HAPPINESS WILL MAKE OTHERS ALSO HAPPY.

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Hurdles in life.

When the life shows a slow down, it becomes difficult to adjust with that. The life is not just a bed of roses is reality but accepting this reality is too hard and that makes the life harder. While driving there are signals which shows the hump ahead and that is a reminder to slow down the speed. If we ignore these signals definitely will have to face the consequence. When there is a hump or speed breaker many of the drivers feel irritated but never think about the purpose of that hump. Authorities will not make such speed breakers or hump for fun or to simply irritate the drivers but with a definite purpose and for the safety and well being of both the drivers and others.

In the journey of life the sole authority is God and if he makes regulations and poses humps and hurdles in life we have to understand the fact with same thinking that there is some reason for that. Man proposes and God disposes is really meaningful. We make a number of plans in life and wishes that life should go in that track only but it goes always in the track decided by God. We do not complain about anything that happen in life only if we have faith in God and those who complain about everything are those who do not have faith in Him and believe themselves better in planning and executing ideas than God. If we analyse our life hundred percentage what happens is not what we planned. We drive ahead when the road is visible and not sure about the road and its condition ahead. So in any situation of life trust that there is a way ahead. One of my friend sent a good caption yesterday that a honey bee does not worry when the honey is taken away by man frequently because it believes that man can take only the honey made by it not its art of making honey. But we human in place of honey bee immediately stop our effort with the very first blow in life. Even the lesson Alexander learnt from the spider is also relevant. When he was almost defeated in war he hid himself in a cave where he observed a spider making its web. From one rock to the near by rock the spider jumped so many times without admitting failure and finally after hundreds of attempts the spider was able to reach the rock on the other side and made its web successfully. The struggle in life is not just a part of our life but every living being in this nature has its own way of struggling for survival but only human complains others animals and creatures neither complain nor admit failure until death. There are many lessons we can learn from honey bee, beetle,ant, butterfly, firefly and many other animals which are real inspiration for modern man to deal with the hardships of life.

MIND YOUR MIND EXERCISE – 2

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Will power is very important in achieving any goal you set n your life and that is something the modern children do not have. Children did whatever told by the elders, went to the school where they are taken, ate the food which was given, studied the subjects taught by others, went to a college where they got admission (not getting admission in the college where they want), completed the course which others said is good and now free in life, to face the odds and adversities of life but all those others who were leading him and whose life he was living without his knowledge are not with him. He never lived his life for him and for his own happiness and he had no personal aim. He had blind faith in those others that whatever he wants they will give and whatever they decide in his life will be good. He absolutely forgot to live his life for him. In such situation how can that person to be bold, courageous, capable, talented, self reliant and develop strong will power??????. There are some simple steps to regain our will power.

  1. Every time you have to do something you don’t want to do, every time you feel under an obligation, take some time to think and find the reasons why you want to do whatever it is you think you should do. There are always reasons why you want to do something. If you don’t find a reason better you don’t do that. Ask yourself the question ‘why”.
  2. Define what you want precisely rather than in general terms: what? When? Where? How? You should think about these questions only if you got the answer of Why.
  3. It would be futile to mobilize your willpower if what you want is impossible. Knowing yourself and your capabilities and also generating confidence in those abilities are essential stages in the process of getting what you want. Ask yourself ‘Can I do this?’ and try to feel the answer in the depth of your being. A yes or No will condition your future commitment.
  4. Before committing yourself to a voluntary act ask yourself one last question “Am I really sincere?” There may be hundreds of reasons for undertaking something that you really don’t want to do. Pleasing someone else, keeping up appearances, trying to be perfect and so on. Answering the question “Am I really sincere?” will prevent you from doing things for the wrong reason.
  5. Start your day with some simple voluntary actions and routines which you are interested in.
  6. Finally set goals for yourself and use the same process to achieve them.

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MIND YOUR MIND EXERCISES -1

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Mind is the most important factor which we have to keep clean and healthy in our life. A weak and imbalanced mind makes everything else in the life meaningless. Our material richness, physical health, social relationships, career and family relationships will be directly affected if we do not have a healthy and balanced mind set. That is the reason in the modern stressful life meditation, yoga and mental exercises are inevitable to lead a happy life. Mind will be always working on some thoughts and the worst matter is that the mind of majority will be running like a mad horse. For example a person started to think about morning breakfast and thought what to make, which vegetable to use, from where vegetable comes, thought about the farmers, their financial security, about government, thought about beautiful farms, thought about beautiful place, thought about a foreign tour, thought about Switzerland and right now the person is enjoying his holiday in beautiful snowy location. What we have to observe is that all these thoughts happened in less than five seconds. He started with his breakfast and reached Switzerland in five seconds. Example may be funny but this is what happens with the mind control and focus of the majority. Mind is always searching for something better which gives more happiness. People take happiness from imagination. Though he did not go to Switzerland, he could take some happiness in that thought. In this process of finding happiness there will be always a trial and error system in the mind and that happens in a fraction of second.

The next bad habit of mind is to force you to think what you do not want to think. The more you try to avoid a thought the more frequently that will come to your mind. Sad experiences, humiliations, insults, arguments, failures, loss, people whom you don’t like, work which you hate, your weakness and your incapability are the factors that use the maximum energy of your mind. Psychologically thinking about these factors is good only if they yield positive results. If thinking about your weakness makes you weaker, better not to think. But if that inspires to be strong, the thoughts about your weakness are good. If thoughts about negatives have to yield positive results we should have a healthy and balanced mind. Majority think about their sadness and become sadder which is the saddest part of life.

Now the thought in my mind is how to saddle the mad horse (mind) and bring under control????? I will be happy if my readers come with your valuable suggestions which will help me to learn more.

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21 IDEAS FOR SELF IMPROVEMENT IN A MONTH!!!!

  1. Detoxify your speech. Reduce the use of cuss words. Be polite.
  2. Read every day. Doesn’t matter what. Choose whatever interests you.
  3. Promise yourself that you will never talk rudely to your parents. They never deserve it.
  4. Observe people around you. Imbibe their virtues.
  5. Spend some time with nature every day.
  6. Feed the stray animals. It feels good to feed the hungry.
  7. No ego, no ego, no ego. Just learn, learn and learn.
  8. Don’t hesitate to clarify a doubt. He who asks a question remains fool for five minutes. He who doesn’t ask remains fool forever.
  9. Whatever you do, do it with full involvement. That is meditation.
  10. Keep distance from people who give you negative vibes but never hold grudge.
  11. Stop comparing yourself with others. If you don’t stop you will never know your own potential.
  12. The biggest failure in life is the failure to try.
  13. I cried as I had no shoes until I saw a man without feet. Never complain
  14. Plan your day. It takes few minutes but makes your entire day awesome.
  15. Every day sit in silence for few minutes. Sit alone with positive thoughts, magic will flow.
  16. In a healthy body resides the healthy mind. Do not litter it with junk.
  17. Eat only home cooked food for one month.
  18. Keep your body hydrated always. Practice drinking 8-10 glass of water every day.
  19. Make a habit to eat at least one serving of raw vegetable salad on a daily basis.
  20. Take care of health. He who has health has hope and he who has hope everything.
  21. Life is short. Life is simple. Do not complicate it. Don’t forget to smile.

 

In addition, make peace with your past so that it doesn’t spoil your present. What others think of you is not in your control so it is none of your business to worry about that. Time heals everything, so give time some time. Only you are the reason of your happiness. Stop thinking too much, it is really alright not to know all the answers. Just smile because you don’t own all the problems of the world.

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HOW TO MAKE USE OF TIME????!!!!

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We will consider the statements of an ordinary unsuccessful individual perhaps applicable to millions of people. “I don’t have time for anything” Where is time for enjoyments, leisure, reading, to be with family, doing works, minding inevitable responsibilities and so on but they always complain why nothing in their life improve. They never think what they are doing with the precious time given to them by God. Are they making use of it or taking it lightly. Every lazy person has a wonderful excuse of TOMORROW which never comes in their life. “What we think of doing tomorrow, do it today and what we are thinking of doing today do it now”.

A person who is unsuccessful and cries that he has not time is like a person who sits in front of food and cries about his hunger. Time is decided by the mood and interest of every person. If you sit in a boring class one hour will seem like three hours and if you are watching an interesting movie three hours will go like fifteen minutes. If you are waiting for your loved one time goes very slowly and when you talk with your loved one time goes fast. When you are sad time is slow and when you are happy time is fast. A person who knows every answer of the questions will find three hours of examination insufficient but a person who doesn’t know the answers three hours examination will be like 24 hours meditation. A lecturer who is giving a boring lecture looks at his watch every five minutes and a lecturer who is involved in the topic and class will be restless when hears the bell. Time is very precious when we are waiting for others and time valueless when others are waiting for us. So finally time is not decided by clock, it is decided by the mood, attitude and interest of the individual.

In relationship, time is the best investment which will give you hundred fold guaranteed return.

Whether we become successful or unsuccessful is the complete outcome how did we use the time given to us. There are millions of successful and great people and more than that unsuccessful and unimportant ordinary individuals struggling with life. One thing we have to think over again and again is that those great people like Abraham Lincoln, Bill gates, Jack Ma, Mother Teresa, Mahatma Gandhi  have 24 hours in a day 7 days in a week, 30 days in a month and 365 days in a year… same like us. They did not get the special privilege of 450 days in a year. How did they use the time in their life brought the entire difference. Opportunity will not fall into the lap of lazy people. So we have to think twice before complaining that we have no time.

It depends upon the commonsense and maturity of a person with which he uses his time. For example, two poor persons were 100 dollar each. One went and bought a nice shoe which he was dreaming since many years and the other one bought 20kg rice which was enough for his family for one month. The next day there was a knock on the door of the second person and to his surprise that was the first person who came to ask little rice for that day. What we have to think is, are we the first person or second person while dealing with the resource of time given to us equally by God. Those who invest their time fruitfully will become successful and those who waste their time will go and wait for the concern of those successful people and work lifelong under them. There you will be forced to use your time for them or else you will be fired. There you take more tension and stress because you are not comfortable with that way of using time. So every now and then change the job trying to find where you can use your time the way comfortable for you and at the same time earn something to live. Isn’t it a strange human tendency that we find everywhere in the society?????. A one hour emergency work will be taken lightly and kept aside thinking that can be finished in just one hour and finally the person will have to struggle to finish that work in fifteen minutes and the work is either incomplete or imperfect.

Many people have mastered the art of “being busy doing nothing” which is the curse of the society.

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