IN RELATIONSHIPS AS WELL AS LIFE, DIAPPOINTMENT IS THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN EXPECTATION AND REALITY.
Dream is a strong expectation about what should happen in the future.
According to APJ Abdul Kalam “dream is not what you see while sleeping but that should be something that doesn’t allow you to sleep”. Everyone has dreams about almost everything in their life. We have dreams about education, profession, financial status, comfortable and luxurious life, friends, family, and children and even about grand children. So till the last moment of life dreams of an individual are unlimited. We focus on many dreams at the same time and that does not lead us to any dream finally. We are always taught by teachers, parents and elders to focus the highest. Imagine a boy standing at the bottom of a big mango tree with full of mangoes with some small stones in his hand (mango tree is the world with full of opportunity) He is asked by everyone to focus on the mango which is in the maximum height and throw stones. The child takes the entire pressure that it should get that mango down with the limited number of stones in his hand. In this situation the chance of achieving his goal is very less and since the height of that dream gives more pressure which makes the child unable to focus clearly, he has the fear of failure and finally that fear becomes a fact. Friends…if the purpose is to get mango the child could have been asked to get as many mangoes from the bottom branch even without throwing stones, there were some which he could have plucked with his hands. Here the conclusion of this failure is to find someone responsible for it. The child blames teachers, teachers blame parents and parents blame the society and the society blames the child. If I forget my personal dream and chase the dream of others I will never be happy. Any dream which we focus should be in our reach and there is nothing impossible for human being other than giving life to a dead body, the only thing which God has kept under His power. If you look at the top floor of a sky scraper and decide to take the stair case to reach there, you can’t skip any of the floors. Though our focus is the top floor, that dream should be chased in a gradual process with patience. Then the success is ours. “Rome is not built in a single day” is a famous quotation.
In this rapid moving modern world we want result immediately and that gives us more stress and we easily admit failure. After planting a sapling next day early morning if we go to see if there is any fruit on that, doesn’t make sense right? Then how can we do that with our life and dreams. My brother when he was a child liked rose flowers and plants. He used to plant rose stems in the soil but once in every two days he used to lift that slowly to see if the new roots started to come and within one week that stem dried. Being a child he was doing this mistake with plants and being grown up we do this mistake of impatience with our life. Everything in this nature has different time procedure to produce fruits. Banana can be produced in ten months but coconuts cannot be expected in ten months. We cant expect jack fruit throughout the year. A woman takes nine months and some days to give birth to a child but the elephant takes 18 -22 months. Neither the elephant can expect in 9 months nor the woman will take 22 months. If everything in this world is beautifully designed and planned by God The supreme Engineer, how do we think that he has not planned anything for us?. It is just because we are elephant who expect a baby in 9 months.
Your dream should make you happy… Not sad
Your dream should make you enthusiastic… Not distressed
Your dream should make you inspired… Not rejected
Your dream should make you strong…Not weak
Don’t live the life just like a log piece in the river. It goes where the water flows..it has no choice neither want choice and it allows itself to be drifted by the water, it has no purpose and finally reaches in the ocean if not blocked anywhere, if blocked it perishes there…Many lives are going like this. We give the key of our happiness in the hands of someone always. We believe that it is the duty of someone else to make us happy. But the actual happiness is within us and it is not others who make us happy or unhappy, it is our own decision. Be happy with whatever you are, whatever you have and wherever you are. Realizing about a wrong step will lead you forward but regretting about the wrong step will hold you there.
Thank you for reading….Wish you all the best.