AN EMPTY CHAIR….TAUGHT ME A LESSON..

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We are living in a world where everyone expects everything to be perfect though it is a commodity or relationship. I expect everything with me and everyone with me to be perfect or else I find it difficult to accept. If it is a thing I would reject and if it is relationship I would struggle to mend it. But in all these process I have uncompromising attitude to be accepted by others the way I am, with all my good and bad attitudes. This is the point I actually go wrong and ignore. If I go to purchase a utensil I want the best one and after selecting one I would search for any scratch, dent or anything wrong with that. Even if there is a small scratch I reject that. But I want people to accept me with all my scratches and dents in my character, personality and life. And if they don’t accept I blame them, I feel hurt, I make an essay of negative thoughts and permanently live in that. I want people to come near me and make friendship with me but when I see them ignoring me I feel sad. There are many things I realize now that lack of perfection might be the route cause for rejection.

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When I went to a wedding banquet, there were so many people who were searching for an empty chair where they can sit comfortably, relax and have food. There was an empty chair but all those who come near it go forward in search of another one. I just observed the reason for that. There was a small drop curry and a spot of ice cream on the chair. It might be used by a careless person or a kid previously who left that chair with these problems.( a deep thought how a person becomes imperfect). (Everyone has got this curry and ice cream in their plate but could not tolerate a drop of it somewhere else…a paradoxical thought). Who wants to dirty their dress in the company of that chair? That was the point where I realized why there is less acceptance for me too. There might be something that people doesn’t like in me. So we should strive to be what others like, our attitudes, talks, mannerism, life style, education and total perfection though not possible. So wherever am rejected, I have to think why and correct that. Though we can never become perfect, making an attempt for that will help a lot.

Finally after nearly half an hour an old person, not well dressed came with a plate in his hand and slowly sat on that chair ignoring its imperfections. Finally the chair got someone who accepted that and the old man is not worried whether his dress will be dirty or he is least bothered in finding the imperfection of that chair which will help him to relax. Everyone was with a one or two napkin in their hand and I didn’t see anyone, even in their desperate search for a chair making an attempt to clean those drop of curry and ice cream and sit on that chair. We can’t expect people to correct us and accept us. Correction should be done by ourselves and then automatically we will find acceptance.

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A CHAIR TAUGHT ME A LOT THAT DAY…

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“WE FIND OTHERS SELFISH ONLY IF WE ARE SELFISH!!!!

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From infancy to old age the word selfishness is a part of our life. If we analyse an infant, in front of it if the mother hug the elder kid it starts crying. How can we interpret this reaction? Isn’t it a mild and innocent selfishness that it needs the complete care of mother and can’t sacrifice even a little for others?? The elder one also thinks many times that after the entry of the new member his share of mother’s love is reduced, though it is not the fact. Once the children grow they always prefer the best for them. There will be comparisons, arguments and even fighting for little things. Let it be a piece of cake or fish fry, they will compete for the bigger and best piece. They consider each and every action of parents to analyze who is getting more care. So the seed of selfishness that was within the infant grows and takes different dimensions and seriousness when they grow.  Once they become adults selfishness becomes a part of their serious life. In this point we have to realize that there is no love without selfishness. We adjust with the selfishness of the partner as long as there is true love and if there is no true love we find them selfish. It is a feeling that everything in the life should be as I wish and am not ready to sacrifice any point for the preference of others. If we do not understand the need of others and continue calling it their selfishness, the relationship becomes a battle field. There we behave like those children who took every incident to analyze who has more right.

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This selfishness is the basic reason for the increase of small families. Can’t adjust with the brothers, sisters and even with parents. So people prefer to enjoy their full life, time, money and space without sharing that with anyone. This is the serious stage of selfishness. Finally one contradictory thought “WE FIND OTHERS SELFISH ONLY IF WE ARE SELFISH’. If I want something to happen the way I wish and found another person expecting different way I immediately call him selfish but in reality it is me who is selfish. I expect that if I label him selfish he may leave the matter to my preference. If everything considered as the requirement of others and the need of others we won’t judge them as selfish. Those dear and near ones are asking for your love, care, recognition, concern and sympathy which they are badly in need of. Then how can we ignore them labelling as selfish people. Are we not the real selfish people?????

There is only one person in the life of everyone with whom you can’t find even a speck of selfishness if we evaluate with our heart not with mind and that is our biological mother. She sacrifices everything for the happiness of others and always gives the best to others. A small example which I observed in different homes, mother makes dosa (Indian food), chapatti or rotti and while serving she gives the best one, perfectly cooked for others and as a result of managing different works at the same time there might be one or two over cooked or slightly burnt food which she always keeps for herself. In this simple example we can see the vast love of mother who is never selfish. But unfortunately these innocent givers are abandoned and ignored in many homes. Others may be selfish and even father may be selfish in one or the other way, not a mother. She is the best person in everyone’s life from whom we can learn the lessons of selfless benevolence.

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CULINARY SKILLS DISAPPEARING FROM HOME!!!???

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“The taste of the variety of food let it be even chutney, my grandmother was extraordinary and that taste is still in my soul”. I think even my reader might have made this statement somewhere in life because in this modern world tasty homely food became a part of history. Moreover nowadays none is much worried about taste at home. Make something (don’t know which thing, but finally it becomes something) have that and go. Let me introduce why I can write something about it. We were three boys at home and I am the last one. I don’t know exactly when why but I became an assistant of my mother in kitchen. Initially that was a forceful duty and later I started to like that. Why I hated initially was that I could not tolerate the two free souls, my brothers, when I was busy in the kitchen. But now from the bottom of my heart a loving hug of gratitude to my mother who made me good in almost every south Indian dishes. My partner is also very good in different dishes including Chinese. So am writing about a normal observation.

Being a teacher I used to ask my students who were above sixteen about their experience in kitchen when there was related topic. The most amazing fact is that when a person gets up and say “ I know how to make Maggie”. Everyone looks at that person as if he is the winner of master chef. The most difficult recipe which they know, Just to boil whatever is in the packet together and eat. I asked do you know how to make tea. It was really funny. She started explaining..put tea powder and sugar……I asked where is water are you frying tea powder and sugar..Ok then take required water..add milk and after some time tea ready….I told her that she did not switch on stove and how did she make tea without heating that???. So finally it was a funny experience. So they are not able to give a detailed explanation of a simple process essential for life but busy by hearting the difficult and complex process and solutions of physics, chemistry, biology and maths… Dear reader this is not a criticism but a topic of concern.  How do our children become like that??? Answer simple we make them like that??

Every parent who is concerned about their child make a statement whenever they come to the kitchen, “You want something to eat?? Or else you go and study, go..go.. now itself..here I will manage everything”.   So a girl is a student till the age of 22 to 24 and this is the way she is cared by the loving mother and after 24 she becomes a wife and a different life. And in that life her menu cannot be chemistry, physics, biology, maths, history or sociology. If they start eating dry bread toast every day, soon that relationship also will be like that dry toast something they don’t want to see.

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Right now we can feel it as a serious issue. Boys usually don’t go to the kitchen and if girls also come in the same track how can there be a peaceful family life? So easy way is getting parcel from some hotel, but how long???? Continuous intake of outside food affects the health and affects relationship. “There was a saying that the heart of a man can be won through his stomach”. Tasty family food which is eaten together is an integral part of a good family relationship which enhances the bond. Kitchen is the most important place of a family. Our children should be inspired to like the work in the kitchen and to be self reliant. Modern girls hate the work in the kitchen. They have less patience to do the same work which is boring. The intention of cooking has become a just filling the stomach than a field of sharing love. So it becomes a burden. If we take our grandmother and mother, without much home appliances they worked almost whole day in the kitchen, still they had patience, and no grievance. They get up early in the morning, make breakfast, that is finished, make lunch, that is finished, make snacks for evening, that is over then make dinner and after serving that wash plates do other works and sleep by 11 in the night. Next day same thing repeats and throughout life. If we think a moment about this ceaseless work we find it is boring and meaningless but if we think about the holy purpose of this work we can find it interesting.   Now people with all modern facilities don’t like to spend even one hour in the kitchen. This is not just the responsibility of girls. According to me in this modern society both girls and boys should be equally trained in kitchen work. Anyone who thinks that boys can’t cook, take a visit to the kitchen of any of the biggest hotel where you enjoy food and praise the food so much and find how many girls are cooking there. You will be amazed to see the fact. So my dear friends don’t allow the boys to escape saying that they don’t know to cook… At home irrespective of boys and girls, enough opportunity should be given to experience the kitchen work. Finally we are all working with a basic purpose of filling the stomach and if we hate that work all other works becomes meaningless.

I hope for a society where everyone becomes independent in this field and take parcel food only in unavoidable situations, be health conscious and protect the health of your body and relationships.

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LET THE CULINARY SKILLS COME BACK TO EVERY HOME.

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WHY NO HEARTY LAUGHTER??????

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Laughter which is considered as the best exercise and the best and cheap solution for many of our mental and physical problem has become very expensive now!!!!!. People forget to laugh more over they don’t have clear idea when to laugh? Where to laugh? Why to laugh and how to laugh? If we take all these questions seriously we can see that sometimes we are also confused. Modern society considers a hearty laughter as an uncultured misbehavior of an uncivilized and uneducated person?

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There was a time of our grandparents who could enjoy even a silly joke and violently laughed with a full body shake and some even rolling on the ground. Laugh and collapse. But now people have become very serious that they lost the capacity of realizing and responding to a joke because from childhood onward they are trained convincing that a loud laughter is lack of commonsense. If we laugh, it should not be heard in the next house. Those who are living in the flat and small apartments this is a Himalayan task. Loud laughter gave way to the suppressed laughter by covering the mouth. The modern society reached the extreme stage that whenever there is an opportunity to laugh they say LOL.. (Laugh out loudly). The aged people who do not find an opportunity to laugh in life is desperately searching for some laughing club where they could imitate the guide who says HA HA HA… Here a normal monkey reaction happens, not real laughter. A real hearty laughter is contagious and those around in your company also will start laughing, some even without knowing the fact why all are laughing…

A good laughter has lot of beneficial facts behind, it increases the blood circulation, helps heart, helps mental relaxation and thus many of our sickness like blood pressure and stress can be effectively controlled. A person who smiles and laughs is always welcomed by others than a serious gloomy character. Who likes to be in the company of a person with a serious King Kong look??? We should be like small kids who actually requires no reason to laugh..but even a solid reason won’t bring smile on our face.

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If we ask others a simple question “Do you remember when you had a hearty and loud laughter last time?”, They will start scratching head to crack that unique date from the history. Every day we can laugh and every hour we can laugh if we have a free heart and open mind. Laugh and make others laugh should be our thought for the day and keep throughout life. Even Charley Chaplin who made the entire world laugh had written “ I would like to walk in the rain so that others will never see my tears”. So sadness is a part of everyone’s life but sadness should not kill the moment of happiness. Share happiness with others, not sadness. We should learn to laugh loudly but what to do?????? We are unfortunately in the age of emoticons.

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KAURAVAS AND PANDAVAS ON ROAD!!!!!

Everyone is in a hurry, all are busy, even the person going to get a packet of biscuits from the nearest shop will try to overtake an ambulance because what if the biscuits become out of stock. Take the key of your car or bike and enter into the world of new kurukshetra which is a fun now and those having fun not only plays with their lives but with the lives of others as well. Mobile phone became a best help for us humans but vehicles became a best help for YAMA ( the god of death) because it made his work more easy. People struggle to get visitors to their blog site but Yama is tension free because traffic to his site is thousands in a day and a big salute to all crazy drivers on behalf of Yama. We forget how important every life is. Because of our mistake a person die on road, think about his family, children and all his dependents. What if he is the sole bread winner of a family?? Life is a race I agree but driving is not a race. Everyone wants to be first on road and the moment you see one vehicle ahead some unknown inspiration to overtake that and once you overtook, yourself feel as a winner and you defeated someone.

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Everyone considers road as their personal property and goes on shouting at others. When we drive the most amazing thing is that we find all others committing mistakes, rash driving, and mainly not giving you way. If anything happens, see the pic above and that will be the situation for one hour. They don’t mind blocking the entire traffic as they want a big audience to see their performance. There might be emergency and even an ambulance in that block but the person who was out for a packet of biscuit will never bother because his emergency is greater than the value of the life of a person inside the ambulance in the block.  Where is the tolerance, mutual understanding and co operation of human. Human being is a social animal. But now people stopped being social and in that way only the last word of that caption remains now,”ANIMAL”.

We will have some fun….

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See the pic above…The only majestic vehicle which take a turn to the right side with left side indicator. They can enter any busy road or highway from any corner suddenly and it is your duty to be careful. Seeing their indicator don’t imagine they will take a turn…sorry that fellow is roaming with that indicator from morning..So busy..people forget..you adjust….

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The person who is inside the car is imagining that she is the real wonder woman and that movie was an inspiration from her. She is practicing because ‘Fast and Furious 10,11,12,13’ she has got contract. However this kind of a driving is a real fun right????

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This person is practicing to go to moon and how to manage with the less gravity of moon or else he is an astronaut who recently came back from space shuttle. Whatever he got a wonderful opportunity to fly in the air. If we are also a reckless driver somewhere we also will get an opportunity like him..So don’t be jealous on this fellow.

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The moment this person goes out immediately remembers the sweet love of his wife and he miss her a lot….or girlfriend????????..see the smile.. But when he was at home he had nothing to say. Using phone while driving is a suicide attempt. Just for a fun a negative thought……the person who called him while driving was waiting to see him committing suicide and lost hope. So thought of calling him while driving..If you call someone who is driving and something happened you are indirectly a murderer.

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This person was crazy about moving restaurant from child hood and even now prefers to eat while moving fast…hope there is toilet also in his car. It is the mistake of the child who came on road…because uncle is having food and the car has no commonsense to save the child.

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“Run for your dear life, That is a scientist inventing flying cars for future”……….

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This fellow from child hood onward was crazy about two wheeler but his father gave him a four wheel…Its OK….He knows how to satisfy his craze. Only problem is that since there is no bush near and around someone is sitting in the middle of the road for….?????????. OK.. he did not watch the movie of Akshay Kumar ‘Toilet’ so forget him…

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This is the way you have to park your car in future..it will save space but no guarantee that it will save life..

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Ok..now open challenge…Identify the company of this car..Prize..you will get a BMW if the answer is correct… The driver of this car might be sitting next to Yama and wondering how and when all these happened??????

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Somewhere I had seen a funny competition called Bump Fight”, These fellows are bit modern. So they are playing bump fight with their cars.

Dear friends in all these incidents there are precious lives which were risked. The father of someone, mother of someone,child of someone, wife of someone, brother of someone, sister of someone, grandfather and grandmother of someone…just think if that someone is us.. how do we feel???. Follow the answer of your heart….

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“LOVE EXPRESSED IS SWEETER THAN LOVE SUPPRESSED”.

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Love is a sweet dish which everyone wants to enjoy without any limit. The appetite for this sweet dish is never satisfied. The more you serve the more will be its demand. The greatest truth is that we can cook this dish unlimited. Since I have compared love to a sweet dish imagine if it is not served what is the benefit. If you don’t allow others to taste it how will others know if it is sweet or spicy? But at the same time everyone knows that it is sweet and crave for that from childhood to death. We know that a milky bar chocolate will never be spicy but are we satisfied with that knowledge or do we prefer to taste that?. Definitely everyone wants to relish the taste of it.

In many household (there might be contradictory opinion in the modern family) father acts as a military commander, very strict and always with a serious face. But the wife says “However I know that you love the children very much” and he accepts that with a smile. What is the use of such love which is not expressed? How the children will know the taste of sweet love at home? This is the main reason many children in their early teenage only fall in love without any mature thinking. They feel the expressed love absolutely amazing and will crave for that. Such parents take an excuse that if they express their love the children will be spoilt. But in fact we cannot spoil anyone with love but can spoil someone with hatred. The children who tasted the depth of sweet love will be far better than the children who have mere knowledge of its taste but never tasted. The emotional, spiritual and mental development of children will be boosted if they taste the true love at home. Even the grandparents who are actually grown up kids also prefer for a word of care, concern and love from their children and grandchildren. A few words like “how are you grandpa?, Love you grandma” will give them a very good energy and smile on face. If the grandmother asks son if he would get some tablets in the evening, son will rudely say that “I can’t, I am busy today, I will be late, Let me see, if I remember tomorrow I will get”. But he really cares and without forgetting he brings in the evening as a surprise for grandma. Actually because of son’s reaction in the morning, till evening she might have worried and imagined a lot of things. This lack of expression is of no use even if you really care about someone. If he had said “Of course I will get grandma”, she would have become happy. I will give a personal touch for better effect. When I was in the sixth standard there was a two days tour from the school and almost everyone had already given name. I told my father that I also want to go and he immediately said “no need to go, you concentrate in studies”. One more week time was there for the tour. Whole week I was so much worried and insulted when teacher and other students regularly asked why I am not coming. When there was only one day remaining, I was studying in the evening with a heavy heart and my father came near and with a serious face told “tomorrow morning take money and go, join the tour”. In fact that moment gave me inexplicable happiness but what about the one week of pain and stress? Now I smile at that cute love of father.

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Heart is a small organ but so spacious that you can give space to thousands of people in that comfortably. Great people like Mother Teresa are a vivid example for that. But in the modern world heart is so congested that if we count the number of people within that we will be prompted to think why so less?????? There are many instances that after marriage even parents will have to go out of that. According to me selfishness and intolerance is the basic reason for such small hearts. Either a person prefers to narrow heart or forced to be so. However it has badly affected the family and social relationships. Since heart is too small to maintain relationships modern man invented mobile phone which helps the heart by storing thousands of relationships in that using face book, whats app, twitter, Instagram and so on. But this modern gadget makes people far near you and people near far. So let us try and pray that LOVE should not be a topic of study for the next generation. Let us start expressing the sweet love so that whoever near us will not search and crave for that outside the family which take many children in wrong route and fall in trouble.

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IF YOU DON’T HAVE A DREAM, YOU WILL WORK FOR THOSE WHO HAVE A DREAM…….

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IN RELATIONSHIPS AS WELL AS LIFE, DIAPPOINTMENT IS THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN EXPECTATION AND REALITY.

Dream is a strong expectation about what should happen in the future.

According to APJ Abdul Kalam “dream is not what you see while sleeping but that should be something that doesn’t allow you to sleep”. Everyone has dreams about almost everything in their life.  We have dreams about education, profession, financial status, comfortable and luxurious life, friends, family, and children and even about grand children. So till the last moment of life dreams of an individual are unlimited. We focus on many dreams at the same time and that does not lead us to any dream finally. We are always taught by teachers, parents and elders to focus the highest. Imagine a boy standing at the bottom of a big mango tree with full of mangoes with some small stones in his hand (mango tree is the world with full of opportunity) He is asked by everyone to focus on the mango which is in the maximum height and throw stones. The child takes the entire pressure that it should get that mango down with the limited number of stones in his hand. In this situation the chance of achieving his goal is very less and since the height of that dream gives more pressure which makes the child unable to focus clearly, he has the fear of failure and finally that fear becomes a fact. Friends…if the purpose is to get mango the child could have been asked to get as many mangoes from the bottom branch even without throwing stones, there were some which he could have plucked with his hands. Here the conclusion of this failure is to find someone responsible for  it. The child blames teachers, teachers blame parents and parents blame the society and the society blames the child. If I forget my personal dream and chase the dream of others I will never be happy. Any dream which we focus should be in our reach and there is nothing impossible for human being other than giving life to a dead body, the only thing which God has kept under His power. If you look at the top floor of a sky scraper and decide to take the stair case to reach there, you can’t skip any of the floors. Though our focus is the top floor, that dream should be chased in a gradual process with patience. Then the success is ours. “Rome is not built in a single day” is a famous quotation.

In this rapid moving modern world we want result immediately and that gives us more stress and we easily admit failure. After planting a sapling next day early morning if we go to see if there is any fruit on that, doesn’t make sense right? Then how can we do that with our life and dreams. My brother when he was a child liked rose flowers and plants. He used to plant rose stems in the soil but once in every two days he used to lift that slowly to see if the new roots started to come and within one week that stem dried. Being a child he was doing this mistake with plants and being grown up we do this mistake of impatience with our life. Everything in this nature has different time procedure to produce fruits. Banana can be produced in ten months but coconuts cannot be expected in ten months. We cant expect jack fruit throughout the year. A woman takes nine months and some days to give birth to a child but the elephant takes 18 -22 months. Neither the elephant can expect in 9 months nor the woman will take 22 months. If everything in this world is beautifully designed and planned by God The supreme Engineer, how do we think that he has not planned anything for us?. It is just because we are elephant who expect a baby in 9 months.

Your dream should make you happy…  Not sad

Your dream should make you enthusiastic… Not distressed

Your dream should make you inspired… Not rejected

Your dream should make you strong…Not weak

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Don’t live the life just like a log piece in the river. It goes where the water flows..it has no choice neither want choice and it allows itself to be drifted by the water, it has no purpose and finally reaches in the ocean if not blocked anywhere, if blocked it perishes there…Many lives are going like this. We give the key of our happiness in the hands of someone always. We believe that it is the duty of someone else to make us happy. But the actual happiness is within us and it is not others who make us happy or unhappy, it is our own decision. Be happy with whatever you are, whatever you have and wherever you are. Realizing about a wrong step will lead you forward but regretting about the wrong step will hold you there.

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HAPPY NEW YEAR……, BUT HOW TO MAKE IT A HAPPY YEAR??????

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My dear friends first of all I wish all my friends a very HAPPY and prosperous new year.

We shall take a moment to think how to make the coming year a really happy one. We hear the wish “HAPPY NEW YEAR” from our entire dear and near ones and we wish them the same. But the real fact is throughout the year neither the one who wished nor the one who is wished is happy. So does a happy New Year wish mean we should be happy only on January first week and after that again sadness, worries, tension, hatred, jealousy, envy and live without peace of mind? If we make a sincere self analysis, this is what happens to almost every one. There will be one thing to be sad which destroy our many occasions of happiness.

We are sad because we ignore happiness and prefer to be sad. Just a small example, if someone complimented you in the morning that you are looking good. You will be happy for the entire day and if someone told you that you are the ugliest person I have ever met we will remain sad throughout life. The first statement made us happy for one day and the second statement made us sad forever. So my dear friends it is not those statements which makes the difference but the individual. It is the person who values the statements because we like to forget positives and remember negatives forever. The sadness is like a seed. Heart is the best fertilized soil for it to grow and every now and then we tend it with all supplements and it grows like anything and occupies the entire space in the heart. Seeds of happiness are always left unattended to be spoilt. Sadness is like a small stone you find in the rice. It is not necessary that we should eat that stone also since it is found in the rice, we can remove it and eat rice. But in our life we prefer to eat those stones first and rice later.

A person who makes a wrong statement about you is the person who wants to see you down always and we vale them more than others. This is the worse attitude of human mind. Just take an opposite stand by valuing the positive people and ignoring the negative characters we can find happiness.

We have to be happy with what we are and it is time to stop worrying about what we are not.

Jealousy and envy spoils ourselves not others.

Our anger is a short term madness which hurts us, not the one whom you are angry on.

Look at people less than you and feel blessed than looking at people who are greater than you and feel low.

How can we expect to be loved when our heart is filled with hatred?

So it is our attitude and preference that decides whether to be happy or sad. That means it is totally in our control. Then why should be sad when you can be happy?????

The love, concern, compassion, cares and serenity is the real richness and if we sacrifice this richness for material richness, soon we will realize its futility.

REMOVE THE NEGATIVES AND FILL THE HEART WITH POSITIEVES AND BE HAPPY THROUGHOUT LIFE

WISH ALL MY DEAR READER HAPPY NEW YEAR ONCE AGAIN..

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WOMEN….THE MOST GRACEFUL CREATION OF GOD BUT THE MOST INSECURE!!!!!!

 

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Observing the situation of women in many countries I thought of taking it as a relevant topic . In the modern world the way their lives, Rights, individuality and even existence are questioned is a matter of grave concern. They are exploited, suppressed and mentally physically harassed in all sphere of their lives. A girl, before reaching the age of ten experiences the black face of the society many times and that gives her a fear of society which will ruin her personality, self confidence and passion for self expression. In many of Indian villages girls are not given proper education and are taught to be a lifelong dependent. When it is a child depend on parents, grown up, depend on husband..Grew old, depend on children.

The insecurity of physical exploitation is limitless. In the society nowhere a girl is safe, in the school afraid of teacher, at home afraid of uncles, cousins and neighbours and to its extreme there is hundreds of example where a girl is not safe even with her own father. How did the humanity become a part of history and a boring topic of the modern generation?

It is really terrible that the entertainment of the modern generation is nothing but violence. If a movie has to be a block buster there should be maximum violence and fight scenes. How did the violence become a brand of entertainment???? Our children are trained for that. If you observe, maximum cartoon channels instill violence in the heart of little ones. There is maximum fight and destruction in many of the cartoons and many other cartoons give wrong messages to children. The all time fun Tom and Jerry which evoked lot of laughter now evokes only contempt. They immediately go for Ben Ten, Power rangers, Bay Blade and so on. It is time to save the remaining humanity of our children by keeping them away from such social Medias but parents have limitation in that also which is the most pathetic aspect of all because  modern children have better knowledge on how to MISUSE social media than parents. Children like to imbibe knowledge from wrong sources. They like a friend who says “today lets bunk the class” than a friend who says ” Today we will conduct a group study”. Every man who violates the rights of women was once a child who was not properly guided. So concentrating on our children and guiding them through right path is the only solution to this issue.

If our children are pulled back from violence and encourage being more humane, there can be perceptible change in the situation. They should be taught to respect women from young stage itself. The lines in the Indian pledge “all Indians are my brothers and sisters” will have some meaning if the children learn to respect the opposite sex. Because if the female who is in trouble is our daughter, sister, mother and wife what will be our feeling and reaction? The same feeling should be brought out in case of every woman who is in trouble.

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There should be worldwide campaign to restore the degenerating humanity which will make the life of our sisters more smooth, happy and safe. Just because Droupadi was insulted and molested there was Mahabharatha (Epic) where millions were killed. In the present society there are millions of such Droupadis but there is no repetition of Mahabharatha. It is the moral responsibility of each and every man to protect the dignity of women.

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UNMATCHED LOVE OF MOTHER.

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Once upon a time in a remote village a widow lived with her only son. She virtually knew the burden of poverty and was struggling to meet both ends. She worked hard from morning to evening without respite because she did not want her son to experience the hardships of life. She was known in the locality as a lady with one eye. Since she had only one eye even her son despised her and hated her because in his school he was known as the son of the lady with one eye. He took it as an insult and started to hate his mother more. When he went to high school he strictly prohibited his mother from coming to his school for any reason. He did not want to be known as her son. Mother never complained. She loved her son in such a way that all his arrogance and insult she tolerated silently. She continued her hard work and managed to pay the fees of her son without delay. There was an affectionate smile on her face and never showed that she was tired, sad or sick. Years went fast and the son grew up. He completed his studies and got a job abroad. He just said bye to his mother and went abroad. He was least worried about leaving his mother alone and going abroad. She was living just to secure the future of her son and was happy that she did that. He rarely wrote letters to his mother and soon stopped that also. She used to wait for the post man everyday and inquired if there was letter for her. Even the post man started to avoid her and considered her as a senile old lady. She did household works in the neighborhood for her food. The son got married abroad and never came back. She grew old and was sick. She knew that she would not live long and wrote a letter and gave to her neighbor and told to give that to her son if ever he comes. She died and was cremated by the public. One or the other way son came to know that his mother died. His immediate thought was to sell the small plot and hut where his mother lived so that he could get some money. When he came the neighbor handed over the letter which she had written.

It was written. My loving son… even in this last moment of my life I have unconditional love for you. I don’t worry that you did not take care of me. I don’t worry that you hated me as I have only one eye. I wanted to tell you the fact before taking the last breath. When you were just three years old fell accidentally in a bush while playing and lost one eye. Since you were small and had a long journey of life, I thought that you should have both eyes. So I gave my one eye to you because I can tolerate the insult but I don’t want you to face that. I am happy that you are living a good life. I missed you so much….. With love your mother.

He broke down after reading the letter but that was too late to realize his mistake and the unconditional love of his mother.

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We are living in a world where millions of parents are becoming burden for their children. The number of old age homes is increasing day by day. How easily the human forget those parents who sacrificed their life and happiness for their children. The modern children show their arrogance and rude behavior to their mother and no second thought in hurting the feelings of mothers. Many children fail to feel the grace of their mother’s love. The importance of mother is experienced only by the orphans because they look at other children who have parents and envy. As long as our mother is alive we take them for granted and do to them what we like and realize the importance of their presence only in their absence and once they are no more…

There is nothing in this world that can replace the value of our parents and there is none who can love us better than our parents…It is our duty to take care of our parents and LOVE the parents.

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